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September 13, 2005

Feeling of falling into death after ejaculation (by M)

Today, I uploaded the second part of Chapter 2 of The Insensitive man, "Men Who Turn Their Eyes Away from “Male Frigidity”." In this part I talked about the "emptiness after ejaculation" further, and emphasized that it is just like the "feeling of falling" into death.

"There are two indications as to the frigidity of man. The first is that there is not an immense sense of physical ecstasy in the ejaculation. It is no more than the instant pleasure of bodily excretion. Secondly, after ejaculating, the excitement instantly dries up. My whole body is listless and there is a dark emptiness as if in a nightmare." (p.32)

I don't know how many of you agree with me, but this is my reality. However, not a few readers of the Japanese edition of this book have agreed with me on this ponit, hence, I presume there will be many men around the world who feel just like me. I wrote as follows:

"That is to say, the process from erection up until the ejaculation is like this: First there is an “I feel great” satisfaction, and a moment of excretory pleasure follows. Then, all of a sudden, like a big gap, the process of lethargy, emptiness and defeat come down upon me. Whenever I have sex, or perhaps, whenever I masturbate, there is this attack. After ejaculating, I have the feeling of wanting to divert my eyes from things sexual, but as time goes by, my sexual desires come back and the process continues all over again. In this way, through one’s whole life there are the repeated feelings of falling and this is the typical symptom for male frigidity." (p.34)

Of course when I have sex with a woman I love, things are so different, but in this case emptiness is just "mentally" compensated by my affection to the woman. If you are interested in this, please read the translated text.

I am continuing to examine the translation of the next part, so I hope it will be uploaded soon. If you have any comments please post them on the comment page below.

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  • I thought that your description was very accurate up to the point where you said it was different with someone you love; that did not sound very convincing.

    Is there any research showing that some chemical or horomonal release is involved? Post ejaculation is SUCH a switch off.

    It is easy for the modern male to feel a sense of guilt, but Iam inclined to a biological explanation to get me off the hook.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:38 PM, November 16, 2005  

  • the hormone oxytocin, as one example, is released into the bloodstream during an orgasm. it, along with other chemicals, induces the after-sex mellow feeling, making you want to cuddle or be with the person you are with, unless of course you are alone, in which case, it can end up making you feel like shit. or not.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11:42 PM, June 01, 2006  

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    By Blogger Masahiro_Morioka, at 12:17 AM, June 02, 2006  

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