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The Insensitive Man: A Philosophical Essay on Male Sexuality: Comments

The following are comments on "The Insensitive Man: A Philosophical Essay on Male Sexuality (2005) " in a former blog thread. Please feel free to post your comments.

  • By Masahiro_Morioka, at 6:52 PM, June 20, 2005  

  • By Masahiro_Morioka, at 1:38 AM, July 12, 2005  

  • I don't know how I missed this one when I've been here before, but BRAVO for speaking up on the subject how our sexual fetishes and fantasies shape our lives.

    I would like to say, first of all, that miniskirts for me are one of the biggest turn-ons as well and am so happy to be offered this opportunity to let it out, regardless of what others might think. But I think miniskirts turn me on for a different reason.

    Living in the US, where most people are out of shape, not a lot of women wear miniskirts because of issues they have with their appearance. Of course, many would not wear them under any circumstances, no matter what they look like. And there are some who will wear them and not worry about the fact that they are architecturally compatible.

    It is not common dress, I think, because of the stigma attached to the physical appearance. Occasionally more mature women in business will use them to manipulate men on a genetic/cellular level.

    I used to have a friend I loved to visit with, because she wore a lot of them. She would go on and on about her issues, and I would keep the conversation going just to watch her in her miniskirt. I'd go shopping with her just to watch her try them on etc. I'm embarassed to talk about that being married with children now.

    When a woman is wearing a miniskirt there is a certain nuance of style and gesture that makes them appear as if they have transcended the problems that beset the physical body, like a fakir walking on fire. They are doing something that fear stops other women from doing.

    In other words, a miniskirt can be a talisman worn by a woman to show she is superior to her peers. And from that standpoint I get aroused by miniskirts because I feel they are symbols of transcendental being, unaffected by biology or philosophy. Not necessarily something pure, but something strong and free.

    The miniskirt was designed, however, for slim and young women, and somehow reminds me of a woman wearing a man’s shirt or sweater after sex, which is another turn on. On the other hand, they started as dancing clothes, which basically make them packaging for women attending modern mating rituals, just as young men’s suits and jackets are designed to exaggerate their biological-role features. The mini says to my hormones “this woman is available for mating” and to my mind "she is not confusing".

    The young and slim idea does represent a certain vulnerability, but we don't have the kind of school uniforms that we see in Manga/Anime. I know them mostly through the designs of Anna Sui and Betsy Johnson and other fashion designers. They have, at times, caused me to doubt my own pro-feminist ethics. But I think that I have begun to come to terms with these waves of 'misknowledge' that screw around with my internal chemistry.

    By Roy Kirkland, at 5:43 PM, July 20, 2005  

  • Thank you Roy for your excellent comment on mini skirts. I didn't talk about that aspect in my book, but it is interesting indeed. I regret that my analysis of mini skirts in Chapter 1 was somewhat shallow. However, Chapter 2 and subsequent chapters are more interesting, so please look forward to them.

    By Masahiro_Morioka, at 10:17 PM, July 20, 2005  

  • By Masahiro_Morioka, at 12:55 AM, August 05, 2005  

  • By Masahiro_Morioka, at 6:57 PM, December 02, 2005  

  • What I miss in this article is a distiction about ejaculation while having looked at pornography and ejaculation after a lovingful moment of whatever how many minutes with a person you love. In other words, I believe in a philosofical part of orgasm, which is absolutely not there while looking at pornography. There is e great difference in orgasm while having looked at porn-pics or movies and experiencing orgasm with someone you love.
    I am not sure that all men grow the same attitude towards orgasm (or sex for that matter) through pornography. I myself do not think I have changed much over the years in that aspect, but you should ask my wife that question. Nor has my way of looking at, or ideas about love, which has always been a bit of a struggle.
    The real talk should be about that difference, but I am not planning to tell much more about my point of view in this subject, here on the internet. Yet I think that there should be dome some real research, and I wouldn't mind to participate.

    Funny where dutch weblogs bring you... (-


  • By Paul Bernhard, at 6:28 AM, December 09, 2005  

  • Ejaculation with porn is hollow and empty, true. Ejaculation inside your wife, whom you cherish and love more than anything in the world, is truly bliss. I wouldn't trade it for anything. Joel

    By Anonymous, at 4:41 PM, February 12, 2006  

  • Interesting discussion is going on at:

    By Masahiro_Morioka, at 2:27 PM, March 31, 2006   

  • Hi! My internet name is Keenagain, and I am a doctor of medicine from scandinavia. I read the two first chapters of your book, "The Insensitive Man ". I just felt like leaving a comment here, as I found it very interesting reading. Although you are talking about your own experiences, I think a lot of people , including my self have a lot of the same thoughts as you do on these topics. I am waiting with great anticipation for the following chapters of your book! I hope that it will be possible to one day buy the hardcopy of the english version. The thoughts you are describing were as if you had taken them straight out of my mind! Continue the good work! Regards,Keenagain

    By keenagain, at 12:25 AM, August 25, 2005  

  • Thank you, keenagain! I am very happy to hear your heartfelt comment on my book. In Japan there have been many comments and book reviews on this book since publication, and many of them were affirmative ones about the author's basic point of view. Your comment from Scandinavia encouraged me a lot. Thanks again. I am now checking the rest of the translation of Chapter 2. I think I will try to find a publisher. If it isn't successful I will upload the translation on the website. Please stop by from time to time.

    By Masahiro_Morioka, at 2:20 AM, August 25, 2005  


How! I began surfing the Web in search of an understanding as to why men watch pornography. I discovered my fiance' enjoys watching pornography; I found a 6 hour DVD of hardcore pornography and this discovery disturbed me. He refused to discuss this issue with me. I began my quest to understand why men enjoy pornography and how they feel (physically and emotionally) before, during and after performing solo sex while viewing pornography. I truly appreciate the frankness of the description of the physiclogical and emotional aspects of male masterbation. I'm still perplexed why he/men enjoy this activity but now I have a better understanding of what does on physically and emotionally.

Thank you, Apriluv. Currently I don't have enough time to translate the succeeding chapter, but if you come back later on you might find other aspects of male sexuality.

I was doing a web search on male insensitivity because I just broke up with my girlfriend and felt like I should feel really bad. But I don't. Perplexed by my lack of emotional attachment to someone I think I love. I looked. Your paper is a bit off topic. But I think it is answering some important questions about male behavior and I hope you will get it translated. As an aside; I have orgasms with people that I love that are long, full body and leave me with a feeling of deep satisfaction. However, several minutes after I do not want to cuddle. I want to take a shower and get on with my day. I still stay in bed with my beloved because I know this is what she wants. But inside I just want to go read a book or do something else. Thank you for being so honest with your experiences. This information needs to get out.

Thank you, anon. Your experiences are similar to mine. I think male sexuality should be investigated more from the perspective of personal inner experiences and emotions. I will try to translate the rest of the book...

I don't understand something. You say that male frigidity is basically a hollow, joyless ejaculation.

But I don't like anyone to touch me, any time, ever. I thought that made me frigid.

I mean, when I'm masturbating, even in the middle of my ejaculation I'm wishing I hadn't done it. But I just thought that being frigid was more about the being touched thing. I guess it's probably all linked together.

I really hope that you had time to translate the succeeding chapters since your theories about male sexuality are fascinating (Particularly your concept of "male frigidity"). I am specially curious about what your hypothesis of "desire of rebirth of oneself" is about (Sadly it takes two whole chapters to discuss this, so I think it would take some time before they are translated and I get to know what it is).
And I want to thank you for taking your time in translating all that (Since thanks to that I have a better understanding of aspects of male sexuality that I would otherwise overlook).

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